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The rapid transitions from one duty station to the next can have a significant impact on our self-esteem and self-confidence. 



I’ve just moved AGAIN...this makes the 15th move in the past 22 years which means that I’m an excellent packer, logistician, and world traveler. What it also means is that I have been the new kid in town as many times.


Starting over, again and again, is a daunting task that goes beyond logistics. It can take its toll and leave us feeling tired, lost, invisible and isolated.  It doesn’t matter if its a remote duty station or one in the busiest city.  The emotional journey is exactly the same and it doesn’t make a difference if it’s your first move or your 15th.
The hustle and bustle of the move keeps you going through the motions.  You’re busy on the front end of the move trying to wrap up ties at that duty station along with setting up your pack out and the details of your move.  You have little to no time to acknowledge how you’re feeling about all the work ahead of you, not to mention the emotional pull of saying farewell to friends and family on the front end.  

You arrive at your new duty station, likely knowing few people to no one, and you go through the motions of securing your new, albeit, temporary home, handling the receipt of your household goods and then making it liveable.


Then it comes, the quiet.  That loud, deafening quiet that happens when all the dust has settled and you’re left with nothing but yourself and emotion.  It comes in the form of grief, fear, and exhilaration.  You experience the let down of letting go and then you have to face what’s ahead of you and maybe even get a little excited about the prospects.


You know that friends and opportunity aren’t just going to come knocking at your door.  You have to go out there and find your community.  But how do you do this when you’re emotionally at the end of your rope and you have to put yourself out there once again?  The toll of each move can wear you down and really begin to chip away at your self-confidence.


I know all of this because I’ve lived it for the past 22 years. I’ve also learned how to overcome that quiet time and face the fear of starting over with my head held high, and self-esteem intact, but it hasn’t always been that easy.  I learned how to position myself for success with strategies for feeling my best, most confident self.  Over the years I have discovered that I have the ability to recreate myself at each duty station to be even better than the last.


With each move, I become a blank canvas that, with a little know-how, I can make the transformation into anything I want to become.  My goal is to help women to step out of the house and into any situation with the confidence that she looks put together and can conquer anything that is put before her.  From heading into a job interview to walking into a new social circle at a new duty station.  




First, I want to recognize the uneasiness, apprehension and perhaps resentment you may be experiencing as a result of a new military station.

  • You’re starting over once AGAIN.​​​


  • You’re in a new location and know very few people and are having to summon the courage to walk into another social setting where you are “the new girl in town”.


  • The move has you wondering where exactly you fit in - THIS time.

  • You have absolutely no idea what it is that people wear at your new location.  What is acceptable and what is not?​



  • Overcome the overwhelm of starting over.


  • Discover what makes you feel most confident wearing so that you are able to walk into a room with style and finesse.


  • Learn what to keep and what to let go at a particular duty station to make getting ready a streamlined process.


  • Put together a wardrobe without breaking the bank following an expensive move.


  • Build a resilient image by defining and embracing your personal appearance, behavior, and communication.

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